Inventing A Family When We Need It

“A crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.” Isaiah 61:3  Such as it is to find family. Marsha and I were sick over Thanksgiving this year and spent the weekend wrapped in cozy blankets, reading, listening to music, and musing over the importance of family in our lives. … Continue reading Inventing A Family When We Need It »

A Sacred Friend Remembered (by Neil)

Neil Vance remembers Floyd Stanley… His voice was unmistakable. Although we hadn’t talked in several years, I was sure it was him immediately. After establishing that it was really me, he said, “I need a favor.” Oh no, I thought. They’re foreclosing on the shopping center and he wants my help in arranging another loan. I made my decision before his sentence was even finished. I … Continue reading A Sacred Friend Remembered (by Neil) »

Sacred Friendships

Remember, if you will, a difficult time in your life. Not a bad difficult time, but a hard difficult. Remember, too, those who walked with you and how, in walking together, you all made it through to the other side. Remember those individuals, for they are special. They are sacred friends. If you need a reference point let me share this story that comes by way … Continue reading Sacred Friendships »

Recovery of a Marriage

Occasionally, we experience transformational moments in our lives when everything changes. Sometimes these moments are big, sometimes they are small, but either way they forever get locked in our memory. I had such a moment twenty years ago when Marsha and I were on a cross-country road trip. The new century had just arrived and we both were emerging from a time that felt like a … Continue reading Recovery of a Marriage »

Grateful Right Now

As an early member of the Baby Boomer generation, I took pride in dreaming big.  I was preoccupied with a yet unborn future and found it easy to escape into the dream world of my longings. I remember Robert Kennedy sharing these words from George Bernard Shaw at a rally at the University of Washington six weeks before his assassination: “You see things; and you say, ‘Why?’ But … Continue reading Grateful Right Now »