“Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their children than the unlived life of the parent.” — Carl Jung “I remember so well the agony of being torn between my love and joy for my child, and my desperation to hang onto a sense of my self. There is something very seductive about being the mom of an infant. All those maternal hormones kick in, and … Continue reading The Unlived Lives of Parents
Carl Jung tells in one of his books of a conversation he had with a Native American chief who pointed out to him that in his perception most white people have “tense faces, staring eyes, and a cruel demeanor.” He said, “They are always seeking something. What are they seeking? The whites always want something. They are always uneasy and restless. We don’t know what … Continue reading What Do You Want?
The other night I had a dream. I was running — from what, I don’t know; to where, I can’t say — but running as fast as I could. The end was hazy. All I know for sure is that I never got away. I never do. I’ve had some version of this dream all my life. But my guess is I’m not alone. If … Continue reading Mending the BIG Memory
It is said that the Greek philosopher, Diogenes, carried a lamp with him at all times in an attempt to find an honest man. Reports were he never found one. Why? Why is honesty so elusive? Perhaps it’s easier to cover a dishonest act with a good motive, or to dress a lie in a half truth in order not to be judged badly by … Continue reading In Search of an Honest Man
“Know thyself.” ~ Socrates In his book on emotional intelligence Daniel Goleman recounts the story of a belligerent samurai who challenges a Zen master to explain the concept of heaven and hell. “The monk replied to him with scorn, ‘You’re nothing but a lout – I can’t waste my time with the likes of you!’ “His very honor attacked, the samurai flew into a rage and, … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence